Grief (ISU#3)

"You will lose someone you can’t live without,and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly—that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.”
― Anne Lamott

    This quotes relates to the book, The Lovely Bones, because the family deals with heart break and trauma towards the death of their daughter, Susie. Susie's family begins to slowly cope with her death. But at first it was extremely difficult for Susie's parents because they did not believe they can feel and live the way they use to. They were depressed, emotionally and physically ill due to the traumatic incident of Susie's death. It became a battle for the family, and they needed to be strong in order to keep themselves healthy and strong. Facing reality of their daughters death was the best thing to do, even though it was challenging and difficult for them to do. They felt empty and felt like everything and everyone is worthless, but the family slowly starts to pick themselves up and deal with this incident. They learn that sadness and loneliness will not help get through the pain, being able to be strong and learn how to cope with it, will help them. Therefore, the family begins to accept the change so they are able to work together to keep each other strong. 

    To me death is a scary word, it is the end in a persons life forever. Losing a love one can break and change one's actions and thoughts, they start acting out and start to become someone else. Death can cause a person to undergo many horrific things, like in this story the family did undergo horrific things. But they learned how to cope with it, they had their head held high and faced the change together because they know no matter what Susie will always be with them.